One of our great fears – which haunts us when we go into the world and socialise with others – is that we may, in our hearts, be really rather boring.
But the good news is that no one is ever truly boring. They are only in danger of coming across as such when they either fail to understand their deeper selves or don’t dare (or know how) to communicate them to others.
When we call a person boring, we are just pointing to someone who has not had the courage or concentration to tell us what it is like to be them. By contrast, we invariably prove compelling when we succeed in saying how and what we truly desire, envy, regret, mourn and dream.
The interesting person isn’t someone to whom obviously and outwardly interesting things have happened; they are someone who has grown into an attentive, self-aware listener and a reliable honest correspondent of the tremors of their own mind and heart, and who can thereby give us faithful accounts of the pathos, drama and strangeness of being alive.
To help you figure out just what makes you interesting, and bring the odder, more compelling and attractive aspects of yourself to the fore, we’ve prepared a short exercise – taken from our latest book, The Confidence Workbook – that we call Am I Boring? To download our exercise for free, click the link below: