Sexual desire is one of the most personal and vulnerable things that we are ever called upon to express – and it exposes one to potentially momentous degrees of ridicule. There are few things more deeply ‘us’ than our longing for sexual connection and therefore any feelings of unworthiness – any worries about how nice we are, or how legitimate it is that we exist – have a sure habit of cropping up in the bedroom.
A central effect of sexual shame is to silence us. It is of huge importance therefore to dare to put our feelings into words and to seek out warm-hearted, broad-minded people with whom we can finally admit to our inhibitions – and learn to see ourselves through less judgemental, more caring eyes.
To take a measure of how much shame we are carrying within us, we might along the way ask ourselves a few poignant questions…
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