Most people, early on, will say they want love and longevity. They’ll sound keen, thoughtful, and sincere. And yet, many relationships falter not because of ill intent, but because one person cannot tolerate closeness – even as they long for it.
The difficulty, of course, is that many of the most telling signs of emotional unavailability only reveal themselves long after the early charm has worn off.
There are a series of questions we can ask our potential lovers to help flush out the probability of sudden and abrupt departure. While somewhat crude, they avoid the rigmarole of trying to build a relationship with someone who doesn’t, in time, reveal themselves to be constitutionally capable of one.
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