We seem to ask how others are doing almost constantly – and almost never mean it literally. While the question implies we care, it has become a reflex, a deflection, a way of moving smoothly past one another. Most of us reply politely and automatically: Fine. Busy. All good. All the while, something else is usually going on: a low hum of anxiety, a quiet hope, a sense of being slightly lost.
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