There is an enormous amount of pressure around sex. We are meant to be confident, intuitive, skilled, spontaneous, and effortlessly impressive. But what if some of the anxiety we bring into intimacy comes from trying to be good at it? What if a certain kind of honesty – about awkwardness, uncertainty, even failure – could make closeness feel lighter, safer and more alive? There may be something unexpectedly seductive about not needing to be flawless. Unlock this article and 1500+ more with digital access to The School of Life – get started below. | | | For many of us, connection feels out of reach because we fear the emotional risk of initiating what we truly want. These articles explore how having confidence in our sexual selves is both a path to better sex and an expression of wellbeing. | | | | | How to Talk About Your Sexual Fantasy Many of us are quietly curious about a particular area of sex that we fear to admit – even to ourselves. This article explores how to move from secrecy to playful, curious conversation about what our fantasies mean, and how we can begin to entertain them. | | | | | How to Seduce with Confidence
Why do we become so intimidated by the people we desire? This video suggests that confidence and seduction doesn’t come from believing we are extraordinary — but from recognising that no one else is either.
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A playful conversation starter to reveal the more unusual, embarrassing sides of ourselves – and to discover how reassuringly normal they often are. | | | So much withdrawal from sex stems from the fear of being judged, doing it wrong, or not seeming 'adventurous' enough. Our couples therapy offers an honest, thoughtful space to explore your version of intimacy, without shame. Together, we help partners turn the stories that hold us back, into ones that bring us closer together. | | | “It’s when we say we are total idiots that we say something wise. It’s when we accept we’ve failed that we try something new. When we collapse in the bedroom, we grow into more entertaining lovers.” | | | |
