When we think about the relationships we truly desire, we tend to focus on other people: how they look, who they are, how they behave towards us.
Yet when it comes to love, what most determines our fate is very little to do with chance, and a lot to do with what we believe we deserve.
We might measure this with few deceptively simple questions:
Do I deserve to be treated well?
Should I have to suffer in order to be loved?
Should I pine for someone who doesn’t want to know me?
Once we dare to examine ourselves properly – particularly through the help of psychotherapy – what should have been obvious from the beginning becomes very clear: the relationship we truly desire must start with ourselves.
At The School of Life, our online psychotherapy offers a space to be heard and deeply understood. Our highly-skilled therapists draw on our ideas and resources, to help you start building more compassionate relationships with yourself and others.