For most of history, the question of who we should be with in love was answered in very blunt and pragmatic terms: whoever our parents told us to be with.
But the end of a dynastic conception of relationships did not end the dilemmas of love.
It merely meant that each of us would be left to choose for themselves, with all the weight of personal responsibility that this would entail.
In the latest episode of The Workshop – rich in personal confessions and revelations – Alain and John consider what we should optimally be searching for as we draw up a list of desirable traits in a partner.